My people, I am grinning from ear to ear. It’s 9.00pm on a Sunday evening, and I just got home. I had a date. And I had such a refreshing and relaxing time like I haven’t had in way too long.
So N and I spent the rest of the day after church together. Her friend was having a birthday party and celebrating her graduation from Law School, and N asked me to accompany her. Being that we have been quite friendly recently, with no hint of romance, it was so easy and comfortable talking with her. Plus she has this amiable and accommodating personality that you don’t have to walk on egg-shells around her.
And it started to feel good, and I began to imagine that this was not just a friendly outing, but a first date. And that’s when the questions began? Should I put my arms around her since she was sitting so close to me in the cab? Should I touch her since she was not uncomfortable with making contact with me? Should we linger on for a little longer since she was not in a hurry to leave? Should I kiss her good-night since she didn’t mind me walking her home? Should I invite to take her to know my place since she changed into something casual and insisted on walking me back to the bus-stop?
I don’t know, but I do know rushing things is the last thing I should do. She’s a very friendly person, so this may just be herself. Or she may letting me know that she likes me. So what am I supposed to do now? Talk to me people.
I just sent her an sms telling her I really enjoyed her company and would love to go out again another time. Then I called her up to say good night. I don’t think I will contact her again for a few days. Right? That’s the way to go? Give her some space then make contact? Talk to me, people, I need some help in here.
I have learned that when you play Mr Nice, and win a girl’s friendship, it gets difficult to ash her out. So, just ask her out already. But if she says no, you may not get to even be friends again. Gosh! Why does it have to be so complicated? I don’t want to blow a comfortable friendship. And I don’t want to lose a probable relationship.