Right now, i feel like you are wasting my time.
Right now, i feel like you are wasting my time.
Novia has been out of town for some weeks, and still we fight. i think it’s a good sign for two people learning to accomodate each other’s strong personalities; but sometimes it scares me. Still, like salvation, we both need to work out this relationship.
Ayo Edinger (8/25/2008 7:48:42 PM): baby
Novia (8/25/2008 7:48:52 PM): sup
Ayo Edinger (8/25/2008 7:48:59 PM): good to see u
Ayo Edinger (8/25/2008 7:49:04 PM): hw r u?
Novia (8/25/2008 7:49:20 PM): good
Ayo Edinger (8/25/2008 7:49:26 PM): miss me?
Novia (8/25/2008 7:50:53 PM): no
Ayo Edinger (8/25/2008 7:51:15 PM): really?
Novia (8/25/2008 7:51:23 PM): uhmmmmmm
Ayo Edinger (8/25/2008 7:51:30 PM): thats very enlightening
Novia (8/25/2008 7:51:53 PM): really
Ayo Edinger (8/25/2008 7:52:12 PM): yes…how u like to strave me
Ayo Edinger (8/25/2008 7:52:18 PM): starve
Novia (8/25/2008 7:52:32 PM): hmmmmmm
Ayo Edinger (8/25/2008 7:52:47 PM): well, 2 can play u know
Novia (8/25/2008 7:53:28 PM): hmmmmm
Ayo Edinger (8/25/2008 7:53:52 PM): wat r u doing online?
Novia (8/25/2008 7:54:53 PM): just came to check my box n stuff
Novia (8/25/2008 7:55:05 PM): was trying to reply my offlines
Ayo Edinger (8/25/2008 7:55:09 PM): k
Ayo Edinger (8/25/2008 7:55:31 PM): seriously its nt nice wen u deliberately withold something u know i enjoy
Novia (8/25/2008 7:55:56 PM): and wat is dat?
Ayo Edinger (8/25/2008 7:56:11 PM): Ayo Edinger: miss me? Novia: no
Novia (8/25/2008 7:56:40 PM): hmmmmm
Novia (8/25/2008 7:56:44 PM): who is novia
Novia (8/25/2008 7:56:59 PM): she better no be missing u oh
Novia (8/25/2008 7:57:14 PM): cos if she was i will break her head
Novia (8/25/2008 7:57:19 PM):
Ayo Edinger (8/25/2008 7:57:39 PM): well, at least somebody is missin me
Novia (8/25/2008 7:58:03 PM): hmmmmm
Ayo Edinger (8/25/2008 8:01:23 PM): nobodys home
Novia (8/25/2008 8:01:37 PM):
Novia (8/25/2008 8:01:41 PM):
Novia (8/25/2008 8:01:50 PM): ur not talking to me
Ayo Edinger (8/25/2008 8:02:14 PM): well u v been usng one words since….u obviously didnt come here to talk to me
Novia (8/25/2008 8:02:46 PM): cant u pet somebody sef
Novia (8/25/2008 8:03:00 PM):
Ayo Edinger (8/25/2008 8:03:03 PM): cnt u just tell sumbody that u miss him n u love him?
Ayo Edinger (8/25/2008 8:03:12 PM): u want me to indulge u but u wont indulge me?
Ayo Edinger (8/25/2008 8:03:15 PM): not fair
Ayo Edinger (8/25/2008 8:03:22 PM): tit for tat remember?>
Ayo Edinger (8/25/2008 8:03:33 PM): besides i only pet pple who miss me
Novia (8/25/2008 8:03:48 PM): reall
Novia (8/25/2008 8:03:53 PM): y
Novia (8/25/2008 8:04:00 PM): tit 4 tat eh
Novia (8/25/2008 8:04:17 PM): ok
Novia (8/25/2008 8:04:25 PM): let d games begin
Novia (8/25/2008 8:04:35 PM):
Ayo Edinger (8/25/2008 8:04:47 PM): wat did u smoke today?
Ayo Edinger (8/25/2008 8:04:54 PM): u r looking for fight abi?
Ayo Edinger (8/25/2008 8:05:03 PM): pls tell them u didnt see me
Novia (8/25/2008 8:05:40 PM):
Novia (8/25/2008 8:05:45 PM): well done
Novia (8/25/2008 8:05:58 PM): now ur callin me a drug addict eh
Ayo Edinger (8/25/2008 8:06:25 PM): by law, that is false accusation
Ayo Edinger (8/25/2008 8:06:30 PM): cos i never said such words
Ayo Edinger (8/25/2008 8:06:35 PM): and i sue u for liibel
Novia (8/25/2008 8:06:41 PM): u implied it
Ayo Edinger (8/25/2008 8:06:53 PM): circumstantial…no proof
Ayo Edinger (8/25/2008 8:07:04 PM): no witnesses
Ayo Edinger (8/25/2008 8:07:31 PM): u r ordered to compensate me for defamation of xter
Ayo Edinger (8/25/2008 8:07:43 PM): ur sentence is to tell me u love me and miss me everytim i ask
Novia (8/25/2008 8:07:53 PM):
Novia (8/25/2008 8:08:01 PM): very funny
Ayo Edinger (8/25/2008 8:08:28 PM): why do u do it novia?
Novia (8/25/2008 8:08:52 PM): baby
Novia (8/25/2008 8:09:04 PM): i know dat one would hurt
Novia (8/25/2008 8:09:10 PM): am sorryyyy
Ayo Edinger (8/25/2008 8:09:39 PM): i rily dnt like it and i hope u wont do it again…apology accepted
Novia (8/25/2008 8:10:12 PM): pls tell me wat exactly upset u?
Ayo Edinger (8/25/2008 8:10:27 PM): Ayo Edinger: miss me? Novia: no
Ayo Edinger (8/25/2008 8:10:35 PM): and u did it the other nite on fone
Novia (8/25/2008 8:10:39 PM): oh dat
Ayo Edinger (8/25/2008 8:10:44 PM): wen i wante u to say u love me
Ayo Edinger (8/25/2008 8:10:52 PM): u deliberately refused to say it
Ayo Edinger (8/25/2008 8:10:58 PM): and kept rejecting my call
Novia (8/25/2008 8:11:11 PM): i must not say it all d time u know
Novia (8/25/2008 8:11:37 PM): be comfortable knowin ido
Ayo Edinger (8/25/2008 8:11:47 PM): i know u do, but i enjoy hearing u say it
Novia (8/25/2008 8:11:49 PM): if i say it or not
Ayo Edinger (8/25/2008 8:11:51 PM): and u kow i enjoy it
Ayo Edinger (8/25/2008 8:11:56 PM): so why dnt u just indulge me
Novia (8/25/2008 8:12:00 PM): now dat sounds selfish
Ayo Edinger (8/25/2008 8:12:05 PM): its like doing it just bcos u know i like it
Ayo Edinger (8/25/2008 8:12:11 PM): just like i like doing things for u
Ayo Edinger (8/25/2008 8:12:17 PM): that i know u will like
Novia (8/25/2008 8:16:38 PM): were did u go
Novia (8/25/2008 8:16:41 PM): ?
Ayo Edinger (8/25/2008 8:16:50 PM): my yahoo hung
Ayo Edinger (8/25/2008 8:17:07 PM): so i missed wateva u may hv said
Novia (8/25/2008 8:17:21 PM): nothing
Ayo Edinger (8/25/2008 8:17:25 PM): ok
Novia (8/25/2008 8:17:51 PM): so how was ur day?
Ayo Edinger (8/25/2008 8:18:21 PM): fine
Novia (8/25/2008 8:18:28 PM): hmmmmmmmm
Novia (8/25/2008 8:18:34 PM): dat dry hmm
Novia (8/25/2008 8:18:38 PM): jist me jo
Novia (8/25/2008 8:18:45 PM): wat happened?
Novia (8/25/2008 8:18:57 PM): i called **** dis morning
Ayo Edinger (8/25/2008 8:19:15 PM): nice
Novia (8/25/2008 8:19:16 PM): told him i heard he wore blue native to church
Novia (8/25/2008 8:19:20 PM): n he was like ah
Novia (8/25/2008 8:19:37 PM): i here such details from were i am
Ayo Edinger (8/25/2008 8:19:48 PM): hmmmmm
Novia (8/25/2008 8:20:36 PM): hmmmmmmm
Novia (8/25/2008 8:20:45 PM): called ****
Novia (8/25/2008 8:21:01 PM): to ask how she is n my work going
Novia (8/25/2008 8:21:10 PM): i text ******
Novia (8/25/2008 8:21:22 PM): to let her kno i arrived safe
Ayo Edinger (8/25/2008 8:21:33 PM): gud
Novia (8/25/2008 8:22:06 PM): hmmmmmmmmmm wat else
Novia (8/25/2008 8:22:15 PM): wat of b e?
Ayo Edinger (8/25/2008 8:22:29 PM): ok i gues
Novia (8/25/2008 8:22:44 PM): hmmmmmmmmmm
Novia (8/25/2008 8:23:07 PM): at least that was not a moosylabic response
Ayo Edinger (8/25/2008 8:23:21 PM): rite
Novia (8/25/2008 8:23:32 PM): hmmmmmmmmmmmm
Novia (8/25/2008 8:23:47 PM): now dis is a monosyllable
Novia (8/25/2008 8:23:53 PM): ur so brilliant
Ayo Edinger (8/25/2008 8:24:01 PM): yep
Novia (8/25/2008 8:24:27 PM):
Ayo Edinger (8/25/2008 8:35:52 PM): yep
Novia (8/25/2008 8:42:51 PM): bye
Ayo Edinger (8/25/2008 8:42:58 PM): bye
Novia (8/25/2008 8:45:39 PM): am upset wit u
Novia (8/25/2008 8:45:42 PM): just to let u know
Ayo Edinger (8/25/2008 8:45:48 PM): same here
Ayo Edinger (8/25/2008 8:45:54 PM): so dnt turn tables
Novia (8/25/2008 8:46:04 PM): dont see y u blanked out been tryin to get u to talk
Novia (8/25/2008 8:46:15 PM): pls dont call me
Novia (8/25/2008 8:47:19 PM): so i cant joke around with u
Ayo Edinger (8/25/2008 8:47:34 PM): we’v been thru this b4 novia
Novia (8/25/2008 8:47:35 PM): so i wass pulling ur legs
Novia (8/25/2008 8:47:48 PM): must u pick up from were i left
Ayo Edinger (8/25/2008 8:47:50 PM): y joke wit sumtin u know i dnt enjoy
Novia (8/25/2008 8:47:57 PM): anyway good night
Ayo Edinger (8/25/2008 8:48:07 PM): i was so excited to see u
Ayo Edinger (8/25/2008 8:48:12 PM): and now this….
Novia (8/25/2008 8:48:28 PM): so wat if i said i wasnt missing u
Novia (8/25/2008 8:48:36 PM): now wat
Ayo Edinger (8/25/2008 8:48:47 PM): even though av told u i dnt like it wen u say that?
Novia has signed out. (8/25/2008 8:48 PM)
PS:I have grown since meeting Novia, and before then i would have sulked and not called her, like we have been doing every nite since she travelled. But i know better now, so i called her. And she answered. We bared our feelings. We didn’t reach a common ground, but talking about it was still some kind of connection.
Update, about 10am on Tuesday Morning
My fone begins to play Lagbaja’s “Never far away” – my new ringtone since Novia travelled. Caller ID reads “Novia calling”
Novia: ahan….u didnt even let the fone ring.
Me: Guess i was in a hurry to pick up
Novia: wat i i was just flashing u?
Me: i was excited to hear your voice.
Me: so wats up?
Novia: nothing, was just thinking of you. wanted to let you know
Me: rily? thanks a lot, i appreciate the thought. am in d office now. i will send u a text later.
Novia: ok, bye.
Yep…”work out your own salvation” is true talk. work out your own relationship, is equally true. Needless to say, the case is closed.
I am full of passion. Novia is full of wisdom.
For me as a christian, i have two answers.
1. Speak the Word…and maybe live.
2. Don’t speak the Word. And definitely die.
1. Why is it such a hard choice?
2. And should there even be a “maybe” in option #1?
hello everyone. thanks for all the comments you guys left on my last post. i don’t have a lot of time right now, but i just wanted to let you guys know that all is well with Novia and i. But you all were not far off the point – Novia agreed she wasn’t into that chat session at all. Minus the fact that she was still peeved at me, she was also into a movie…and she doesn’t play with her movies.
But, you know what they say about relationships? That the best part of the fighting is the making up?
Well, i rest my case. Weekend was off the shizzle!
Ayo Edinger: pls if u r there, talk to me
Ayo Edinger: hey
Ayo Edinger: how have u been?
Novia: good n u?
Ayo Edinger: am ok
Ayo Edinger: i sent u an sms earlier
Ayo Edinger: i just want you to know am sorry
Ayo Edinger: and i miss you
Novia: its fine
Ayo Edinger: i bought a book today. its called emotional intelligence
Ayo Edinger: i hav started reading it
Ayo Edinger: i want to do whatever it takes to keep us together
Novia: who wrote it?
Ayo Edinger: some guy…a psychologist i think
Ayo Edinger: a kind of scientist
Ayo Edinger: or professor
Novia: is he born again?
Ayo Edinger: i dont know
Novia: in all u do remember u operate wit a dif set of rules
Ayo Edinger: yes i know
Novia: dis guy whoever he is might have some principles but r they baised on d word?
Novia: anywayyyyyyyyyy all am trying to say is
Novia: it matters who u get ur info from
Ayo Edinger: i understand
Ayo Edinger: i just want to do everything i can do be a better person for you
Ayo Edinger: theres a lot of pages and plent of small fonts, so am just kinda scanning thru some interesting section
Ayo Edinger: i dont know if i will get the time to read it all
Ayo Edinger: but like u said there a few bits and pieces to pick up
Ayo Edinger: …i cooked beans yesterday
Novia: good for u
Ayo Edinger: and i ate is last nite and tonite. hv u eaten anything today?
Ayo Edinger: thats nice. i still hv sum left over beans if u r still hungry
Ayo Edinger: i cud email it to you
Novia: tanks but i will pass
Ayo Edinger: well, if u change ur mind…i did put a little bit too much salt i think
Ayo Edinger: but if u dont taste it, it will go down fine
Ayo Edinger: i kinda just swallow it while watching 24
Ayo Edinger: so i dont really notice
Novia: hope it worked
Ayo Edinger: yes it did
Ayo Edinger: guess wat? i came for wed prayer meeting today
Ayo Edinger: actually the entore office came….our first
Ayo Edinger: S insisted that we all come since we scored 0 the last time
Novia: think i was waiting to go to d office.
Novia: good for him
Ayo Edinger: i saw P today also
Ayo Edinger: we spoke this evening just b4 service abt the job
Ayo Edinger: i got her no too
Ayo Edinger: so how did he tell you?
Ayo Edinger: i got disconnected. u still there?
Ayo Edinger: so how did he tell you?
Ayo Edinger: i mean god…
Ayo Edinger: just a few mins b4 u came online i prayed for you
Ayo Edinger: and i asked him to tel you i missed u a lot
Ayo Edinger: and that i was sorry
Novia: i told u
Novia: its fine
Ayo Edinger: yes i know….
Ayo Edinger: i was just wonderinf if he butered my msg very well
Ayo Edinger: and put sugar and ice cream on it
Novia: how much did u give him
Novia: he isnt an errand boy u know
Ayo Edinger: i know…i cried my heart out to him
Ayo Edinger: he couldnt stand to seeme so broken
Ayo Edinger: u know hes crazy abt me
Ayo Edinger: thats one reason why he gave me the gift of u
Ayo Edinger: yes he is
Novia: good for u.\
Ayo Edinger: wanna know a secret? i think hes crazy abt u too
Ayo Edinger: thats y he gave you the gift of me
Ayo Edinger: he has a way of hooking pple up…
Ayo Edinger: i think its his specialty
Ayo Edinger: wat do u think?
Ayo Edinger: yeah, i know…i feel d same way abt u….at a loss for words
Ayo Edinger: wen i think of the beauty u brot into my life
Ayo Edinger: all i can say too is….hmmmmm
Ayo Edinger: aha!
Ayo Edinger: i am fulfilled….she laughs
Ayo Edinger: the laugh that rocks my world
Ayo Edinger: i guess u will be tired….it must hv been a long day for you….
Novia: it was
Novia: was in d airport a long time
Ayo Edinger: i wish i cud be ther 2 rub ur shoulders and masssage ur feet
Novia: didnt make service
Ayo Edinger: sowwiee
Novia: tanks 4 d tot
Ayo Edinger: u shud sleep early dnt u think?
Novia: am seeing a movie
Ayo Edinger: hmm….let me guess the title….”she loves me a lot”?
Novia: no john turker must die
Ayo Edinger: lol
Ayo Edinger: hmmm…..never step on a womans toes….i learned from that movie
Novia: just seein it
Ayo Edinger: well then let me let u enjoy. i hv just a few mins b4 nepa goes off here
Ayo Edinger: i sent u a yogurt drink thru H
Ayo Edinger: and i love you very much Novia
Novia: thank u
Ayo Edinger: and i appreciate you a lot
Ayo Edinger: good nite my love
Being in love, or loving someone, does not mean that i will like everything she does, or that she will like everything i do.
Communication. Don’t underestimate it. It is key to keeping a relationship. For when you both stop talking, you both stop walking.
True, being the one to stand down, is not an easy task. But remaining uncommunicative is a sure way to splitting up.
Update: Novia and I talked later in the night on yahoo. Not what i would have wanted, but under the circumstances, it was the option we had if we didn’t want the friction to carry over. And i realized that i had heard what she didn’t say; and she had said what she didn’t mean.
Lesson learned: Never sweat the small stuff!